how i landed in new york city

“Things do not change; we change.”

― Henry David Thoreau

There’s an ongoing joke between my friends and I right now. It goes like this: They ask, “What’s new?” And I reply, “Oh, not much…”

Then, we laugh.

It’s funny because everything is new.

In the last three months, I’ve filmed a TV show, broken off an engagement, quit my job, and moved to New York City. And yes, I even braved the cliché blonde-to-brunette move.

It might look like a lot of things changed in my life – and they did. But that’s because I changed.

I went away for a period of about a month to work on this TV project – and in that time, I learned so much about myself and what I wanted from life. It took being removed from my day-to-day life to realize this. Why? Because I was happy at the time… and because of that, I had no reason to question the path that my life had taken.

What I needed was time alone, time to dig deep within myself. I realized that I was not yet ready for a family – or to be married, for that matter. I realized that I had met my then-fiancé when I was 22 years old. I didn’t know what I wanted to do with my life at that point. I didn’t even know I liked to cook. So, yes – in the past five years, I realized that somewhere along the lines, I had changed, and here it was – coming to the surface.

Change meant that I had to hurt someone that I cared very much about, and that was hard. But where would we be in life if we didn’t change? We would flatline. And, in essence, we would be dead. To embrace life, is to embrace change.

There was a big, big world out there, I realized. Much bigger than the bubble – be it a happy one – that I was living in.

And in this moment of clarity, I was sure: New York City was the move.

I had always wanted to be in New York and sitting here now, I realize: I wasn’t ready yet back then. Everything that I’ve done and experienced since has led me to this point, and I’m extremely grateful for that.

Now is my time to experience New York. Now, I’m ready.



how i landed in new york city

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  1. I’m so glad you’re back to blogging Sarah! I was a big fan of 20 something cupcakes, and was excited to see you pop up in my google reader a couple minutes ago. Happy to hear you’re doing well in NYC despite some big changes in your life!

  2. Your story is such an inspiration! You’ve done such a brave thing to go after what you want and leave behind the things that weren’t going to get you there. I’m going through something similar career wise right now and it’s hard for most of the people in my life to understand my decisions but it’s not always easy to explain what your heart wants.
    I’ve dreamed of living in NYC for at least 10 years now, and after recently spending 2 weeks up there, I have that itch more than ever. I’m especially jealous of anyone who gets to have all of those amazing restaurants at their finger tips.

    Best of luck on this new chapter of your life…I’m looking forward to following along here. 🙂

  3. Wow, great story. Welcome to New York City!! 🙂 I recently just went through a huge career/life change as well so I can relate. No place better to go through a time like this than in NYC where there are so many opportunities. Can’t wait to read more.

  4. Sarah, I have said it before but I’ll say it again – I am so proud of you for knowing who you are, actually listening and having the courage to follow through. You are awesome girl. xoxoxo

  5. Ingrid says:

    Wow, I just read your story and I could relate. I wish you good luck and hope to continue reading more of your new chapter…

  6. Natasha O says:

    Hi there! Just in case you don’t know, your email subscriptions are not currently enaabled. Thanks & congrats!

  7. Sara says:

    Sarah – I was missing your updates! Glad all is well and WOW, what a change from South Florida, huh? I’m in NYC for the week and fall in love every time I’m here. Can’t wait to hear about your success!

  8. Autumn says:

    Glad to see a blog post from you again! Been wondering what ever happened with the tv show etc! Can’t wait to hear more 🙂 Congrats with all the big changes…. I’m sure they were not easy decisions but I’m happy for you.

  9. I have a list of blogs that I check daily – yours being near the top. No lie when I say I’ve been checking your blog daily for the past 2 months thinking-I wonder if she’s ever going to post again? It’s funny how you almost develop a friendship with a blog. Glad you’re back and excited to read about your adventures in the BIG CITY. Keep us posted!!

  10. Lahunhayou for o says:

    I am super happy for you! I have been following over a year now and I am glad that you are happy and flimed a tv show! I can’t wait to know what it is!!!! You can do what you want now and in order to do that life had to change. your ex may now see it now but, he will grow and be happy once again as well!

  11. Samantha says:

    Glad to see you are back and in big fashion! Those are big changes, Congratulations!!

  12. Margarita says:

    Sarah, BIG big changes indeed! I was wondering what happened to you after we had a changeover of management in FMP. I just kept hoping that you are ok. I am glad to know that you are well. Life sure is full of surprises! There are always sacrifices to be made… but we all move on, as hard as it may be and find happiness in bigger, better things, like learning more about who we truly are and loving ourselves more!

  13. Welcome to NYC Sarah! I’m biased about NY since it’s my native home, but I know you have an adventure there. I started moving around the world in 2008 and I have learned and gone through so much more than I realized in the last 4 years.
    There will be laughter, tears, and new experiences for you. Enjoy and go to some great restaurants along the way (I just went to Pulino’s when I went back and it rocked!) Congrats on the tv filming as well!

    Chic ‘n Cheap Living

  14. J @ semplicemente ... J says:

    So unbelievably brave of you. Best of luck in your new endeavors and life!!!!

  15. john cassimatis says:

    sarah, i am a new fan and very impressed. i am kind of doing the same thing here in terms of learning to “really” cook. i love it so much. Tonight i am making Juilia Child’s lamb stew but with lentils instead of turnips. i will look forward to seeing your progress. As a former New Yorker in my twenties, I can say you are never going to forget these years–it is a big, big world.

  16. john cassimatis says:

    ps check out Raoul’s steak au poive in SOHO. NYC classic.

  17. Sarah! So glad you’re back–wow what a whirlwhind! I’m sorry to hear about your engagment but I have mad respect for anyone who can be brave for the sake of truth. (Does that even make sense?) Let me know if you have any NYC questions from one foodie to another 🙂

  18. Sarah says:

    Congratulations on all of the excitement Sarah! I know I’m happy to see you blogging again, best of luck in NYC! P.S. Love the new blog name 😉

  19. Anna says:

    I am also so excited that you are back!! I loved your old blog and I can not wait to read all the updates on here! Congratulations on everything you have acheved! You are doing great!!
    sending some huggs from germany!!!!!

  20. Lyndsy says:

    congratulations on being true to yourself and making the difficult decision that so many overlook and just settle for what they can get. i admire your passion and wish you the very best of luck! so happy you have returned to blogging and look forward to your recipes (and tv appearance) ahead!